I think white lies are not desirable. Why? -Shortness of breath and high cost.

You didn't want to borrow a credit card. It was very tenable and confident. As a result, you made up an imaginary reason to perfunctory it. Is your guilty conscience not empty?

Even if there are 1, reasons, did you lie to her when you said it? Does she resent it? When we are together in the future, can we guarantee that when the credit card topic comes up, we don't need to continue to lie?

I don't know your background, personality, experience, making friends, and I don't know much about your friends, so I can't give you specific methods. I can only tell you, refuse unreasonable demands, first say "no" clearly, and then tell her why. Whether your attitude is gentle and frank depends on your style of doing things.

don't complicate the problem. Your kindness will not be gone forever because you refused the indecent assault request. "Hurting kindness" is the same thing for both sides. How does she react? You can't control it. You can do it yourself. It's enough.

friends spend their own money and consume your credit. I really lent it to her, and even if you can pay it back, it will cost you far more than time and money.

at the same time, my friend, the most important thing is that you love me! Any attempt to kidnap the other side with the words "friendship" and "friend" in an attempt to achieve personal gain is definitely not out of friendship! So, now you don't need to look at this matter as a friend, but consider what your first reaction is when a stranger or a stranger makes this request! A true friend is that I can go through fire and water for you, but when I am embarrassed to refuse, the other party will smile calmly: it doesn't matter, I understand! Even friends should not let each other show embarrassment!

Finally, everyone has a different understanding of the word friend. Many times people who meet you for the first time can clap your shoulder and say, we are friends! When two people who are friends look at each other, it is very likely that one takes the other as a close friend and the other as a playmate!